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Meditation: So many seekers but so few finders

DSCF2606Why are there so many seekers but so few finders? Why is inner peace so difficult to find? IF we should happen to feel at peace, is it impossible to maintain that sense of self as life unfolds before you? Does meditation help us to find and sustain inner peace? Carl Jung is credited with saying that wisdom was stating the obvious. Perhaps, what you find when you meditate does not measure up to your expectations. Zen states the reality of finding illumination best, first enlightenment and then the laundry. Even when you are the grand mystic high exalted one, who will do your chores for you? If you dig for diamonds, would you discard all the gold and silver that you find as you mine?

The basic misdirection a seeker encounters on their quest to find inner peace – revolves around developing the awareness to appreciate the arrival of inner peace. Also, to remain aware to notice when inner peace begins to slip away. Typically, when we choose to practice meditation, we seek a quiet place where we can draw our attention inward and away from the confusion of the world around us.

It is not healthy to separate from the world. Perhaps it would be better to see what we call distractions as a series of lessons on maintaining awareness. Meditation strengthens your connection to the world. The process of meditation supplies the quiet space within that you need in order for you to recognize how your choices create your life. Each of us is an important co-creator of the world. Each of us has the responsibility to create the world by the application of free will. The world is neither confusing nor comprehensible. It is just a place where things happen. You can’t change what is happening. You can only be aware of your response to what is happening all around you. Awareness gives you the space to be present as life unfolds and to respond to situations as you choose to respond. Meditation gives you the opportunity to appreciate how your choices influence your life. Meditation trains us to be aware.

Our culture trains us to understand what is happening so that we can make the right choice. We live in the age of science and have developed a cultural bias toward thinking and understanding. We are taught that one should know what they are doing before they attempt to do it. I am not saying that thinking is bad. Actually thinking and understanding is only one way to respond to what is happening in your life.

What is happening in our life may be beyond our capacity to understand. The meaning of physical sensations, emotional responses and spiritual communication can only be felt. The body, your emotions and your spirit all communicate. However, the communication does not happen with words and ideas. Only the mind communicates with words and ideas. Body, emotions and spirit communicate with feelings. Why do you love one person and not another? You feel love physically, emotionally and spiritually but no one understands why you feel that way toward the object of your affection. You certainly can’t convince someone to love you or not to love you. All emotions are unreasonable and non-debatable.

Meditation is the process by which we can get in touch with our feelings and come to trust feelings. Meditation enables us to balance knowledge with feelings. In that way, a fully integrated being will inform our response to our life as we are living.

Now I have mentioned body, mind, emotions and spirit. In reality those concepts are only a representation of who you are at any given time. How can your body be different than your mind? How can your mind be different than your emotions? How can your emotions be different than your spirit? In reality there is just you, an integrated being. The words are representations that enable us to express our ideas. Unfortunately the words can also shatter our sense of integration so that we feel empty and scattered.

The words are powerful enough to convince you that what you feel is not important. Meditation will help you to feel your feelings, express how you feel as you are feeling those feelings and then move on. What could complicate the search more than confusing words and concepts with the real world?

Through meditation we seek inner peace. With inner peace, we foster world peace. Yet the news reports remind us that there is a war going on somewhere in the world. Inside of each of us there is a war zone as well. Even the act of meditation will stir conflict. When, where, why, how should I meditate? When we fight with ourselves who wins? The problem is neither simple nor difficult. It is a value judgment. How much do you value inner peace? Everyone wants to be successful, the question is, and how hard are you willing to work to achieve your goal?

When you practice meditation you begin the process of integration. Body, emotion and spirit will be given a voice and mind will determine what to do with that communication. Meditation is done with awareness. Developing awareness is the purpose of meditation.

So how do you start the communication between your passions and your intellect? Where do you begin building the bridges?

Next, so how do I meditate?

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Acupuncture 101: Kidneys

Winter is the season for the kidneys & bladder.

In Western medicine, kidneys are the organs that filter and purify blood.  They maintain pH, mineral and electrolyte balance by removing excess water and salts to create urine.  The urine is then stored in the bladder until you pee.

In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), the kidneys and bladder are seen as an energetic system, bigger than just the physiological function of the organs themselves.  To TCM, the kidneys govern reproduction, produce bone marrow, influence growth and development and control sexual energy.

From a TCM perspective, there are several kidney functions that differ from a Western perspective.

Like in Western medicine, the kidneys are responsible for water metabolism.  However, instead of understanding water and salts from a bio-chemical perspective, TCM describes fluid as clear or turbid.  Clear fluid is lighter and the kidneys send it upward to moisten the lungs.  Turbid fluids are heavier and they are sent downward to be released through the bladder.

One of the kidneys’ primary roles is storing the vital essence called Jing Qi.  Jing is the essence of Qi and is responsible for reproduction and regeneration. There are two types of Jing—the Jing inherited from your parents and forming your basic constitution, and the Jing acquired from the food, water and air of your daily life. The kidneys store and control Jing, and this process influences growth and development, sexual maturation, reproduction and aging.

The kidneys are also in charge of “Zhi”—mental drive and courage.  Zhi is the will to live and provides determination and focus to accomplish your goals and realize your dreams.

It’s important to provide care and nourishment to your kidneys.  Eat warming foods, and avoid raw foods and cold drinks.  While a green salad is OK now and again, winter is not the season to be salad-crazy.  Eat soups and stews.  Add extra root vegetables, squash, beans, miso and seaweed to your diet.  Use garlic and ginger for flavor.  If you want fruit, eat blueberries or blackberries.

And keep your kidneys warm.  Wear long shirts and sweaters that come down to your hips. Better yet, make a haramaki (see sidebar) and wear it every day.

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A Simple 4 Step Plan to Find the Time to Relax

Winter is a time to stop, pause and reflect.  Your body and soul need a break from to-do lists, urgent priorities and busyness.  It’s important.

But finding time is difficult.  The whole reason you need a break from busyness is because you are so busy.

Making time to relax doesn’t have to be hard.  Follow this simple 4 step plan and you’ll discover time you didn’t know you had. continue reading »

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Winter Feng Shui for a Healthy Home

In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), all of life is influenced by seasonal cycles.  You are probably familiar with this in acupuncture, but did you know that these cycles also affect your home?

The practice of making a home “healthy” is called Feng Shui.  By directing the flow of Qi through your home in a balanced way, you can create an environment that promotes health and happiness to everyone who lives in it.  Feng Shui gives rules to harmonize yourself with your home.

There are many ways that Qi is balanced in a home.  Choosing harmonious colors, shapes and symbols, placing furniture auspiciously or strategically hanging wind chimes or mirrors are all typical Feng Shui practices. continue reading »

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Interesting Ways to Help Your Kids Exercise in Winter

snow-drawingIt’s cold and dark outside.

You come home with the kids and all you want to do is snuggle on the couch. Chinese medicine teaches us that we should emulate the trees in winter. This is the time to allow our roots to grow through rest to prepare to grow in the spring.

Snuggling in winter may be fun (and I’m not going to say you shouldn’t snuggle) but your kids need something more.  In fact, according to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), kids need at least 1 hour of physical activity—every day.  And depending on your children’s school program and sports activities, they may not even get close.

There are many benefits.  Children have too much Qi to really rest. A sedentary child becomes anxious as the excess of energy begins to percolate due to inactivity. Exercise helps kids feel less stressed, have higher self-esteem, focus at school, sleep better and maintain a healthy weight.  You’ve probably noticed that parenting children who get enough exercise is also easier than parenting those who don’t.

Winter is a time for yin activities.  It’s healthy to be introspective and quiet.  However, children need physical activity—even in the winter.

But on a cold, dark day, how do you get your kids to exercise? continue reading »

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